Emotional Intelligence, Part 1

Emotional Intelligence

What has rocked your world?

• We can’t control everything-

  People/situations affect us

• We are Human-

  Big emotions just happen

• The Reassuring Part-

  We are in control of our own thoughts & actions

Dealing with Big Emotions

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

• The Average adult can only name 4-5 emotions. How many can you name?

Dealing with Big Emotions

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

  -Accept your emotions

• Has there ever been a time when you avoided your emotions?

Poll

What did you do to avoid identifying & accepting your emotions?

• Call/Text/Talk to a friend

• Turned up the radio alittle louder

• Sat in the emotion and threw myself a pity party

• Something else

Dealing with Big Emotions

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

  -Accept your emotions

  -Realize that emotions are impermanent (fleeing)

• So...about that time you avoided your emotions...how did it work out for you that time?

Poll

How did it work out for you?

• Everything was fine, it never came back up

• Everything seemed fine, but sometime after that, I blew up

• It's still not fine

• I eventually took time to think about and work through it and now it's better

Dealing with Big Emotions

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

  -Accept your emotions

  -Realize that emotions are impermanent (fleeing)

  -Inquire & Investigate

  -Be Kind to yourself & Let Go

  
  

• The result: A happier, healthier, more accepting of others life

Let's Practice...

• Think about recently

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

  -Accept your emotions

  -Realize that emotions are impermanent (fleeing)

  -Inquire & Investigate

  -Be Kind to yourself & Let Go

Poll

Think about a situation recently that stirred up some emotion. How do/did you feel about it?

• Happy

• Sad

• Angry

• Surprised

• Something Else

Poll

Did you "Investigate & Inquire?"

• Yes, I thought about why I felt that way

• No, I'd like to avoid thinking about that situation

• No, I haven't thought about it yet

Let's Practice...

• Reflect on what happened

  -Turn toward your emotion with acceptance 

  -Identify and label the emotion

  -Accept your emotions

  -Realize that emotions are impermanent (fleeing)

  -Inquire & Investigate

  -Be Kind to yourself & Let Go

• What happens when we 'get stuck'?

Poll

Sometimes big emotions can be paralyzing...if you were to be in that situation, what would you do?

• Go back to this list of steps and work through my emotion

• Talk to a trusted friend/family member

• Seek outside assistance

• Stay 'paralyzed'

You Are In Control

• We can control our own thoughts & actions

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• Work through emotions - The Why is important!

• Self-Care & Distractions

• Choose to be intentional

• What do you do to improve your mood?

Open Ended

What do you do to help improve your mood?

Improving our Mood

Psychology Today estimates that Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) affects 10 million Americans. Women are 4x more likely to be effected.

How do we take care of ourselves?

-Journaling

-Nature

-Hobbies

-Vitamin D (sunshine!)

Choosing to be Intentional

• Record 3+ ways you want to be intentional this week

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• Self-Care

• Job/School

• Relationships at home

• Relationships with peers

• Relationships with friends

Poll

What are you looking forward to most?

• Trying something new

• Having more free time at home

• Having more time to myself

• Learning more because of fewer distractions

• Something else