Social Emotional Learning: Respect

Social Emotional Learning: Respect

by Kevvin Hankins

Perspective, Empathy, Culture, and Respect

Perspective: The way you see something.

*This is influenced by your personal beliefs and experiences.

*If someone has the same perspective as you, you may share similar life experiences.

A different perspective is not right or wrong.

• It is important to be able to stop, and try to look at things from different perspectives.

Poll

What do you see?

• An old woman.

• A young lady.

• Both

• Neither

Poll

What do you see?

• A man's face.

• A Mermaid under water.

• Both

• Neither

Poll

What do you see?

• A Saxophone player.

• A woman's face

• Both

• Neither

The problem occurs when we do not try to understand the other perspectives.

Respect: There are 2 definitions of respect!

• A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something: "I respect the work of Martin Luther King". (Earned)

• Due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others. You accept someone for who they are, including their differences.

Poll

Should you respect your elders?

• Yes

• No

• Maybe

Empathy vs. Sympathy

• Sympathy is a feeling of concern for someone. You feel sad for the person who is struggling.

• Empathy is the ability to imagine what someone else is feeling. You can put yourself in their shoes, and emotionally feel what the other person is feeling.

The ability to empathize comes naturally to some, but can also be learned.

*If you have had a similar experience, it is much easier to empathize with someone.

Empathy Blockers:

• Downplaying - "It's not the end of the world."

• The Positive Spin - "Look on the bright-side".

• Cheering up - "Hey, let's forget about it and go get some ice cream."

• "Should-ing" - "You should do......."

• Put Down - "Well, you should have known." "You always mess things up."

• Labeling - "You are being over-sensitive..."

• SOMETIMES people just need to be heard and validated!!! It is important to face your struggles and your emotions.

Culture: The characteristics and knowledge of a group of people.

The way you speak, eat, socialize, worship, relax, learn, grow. We ALL have a culture!!!!

Poll

Does your family do any of the following at dinnertime:

• Sit at the table and eat all together.

• Eat together somewhere else in the house.

• Everyone does their own thing.

• Everyone eats the same meal, but wherever they want/need.

• Say a prayer or blessing

Poll

Does your family have any traditions with:

• Certain foods you eat on certain occasions

• How you celebrate certain occasions

• How you dress for certain occasions.

• Roles of boys and girls.

• Roles of adults and children.

Poll

Does your family have any traditions surrounding the following?

• School clothes shopping

• Decorating for holidays

• Weekends/vacations

• Family time

• Religion/worship/spirituality