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Principles For How We Treat Each Other

Principles For How We Treat Each Other

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Suzanne Higbie-Long

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Principles For How We Treat Each Other

By Suzanne Higbie-Long

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Take a moment to think back to that first day of PJI and remember the Principle that resonated with you.​ Keep this in mind as and self-reflect as we work together today.

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My presentation consists of a lil' connection through a lil' competition. You will be given questions to answer throughout the lesson. Scores will be tallied.

Introduction

-You will have 10 seconds to answer each question.

-Click your answer on your computer.​

​​Guidelines

-​We are all winners.

-Thank you for playing along today!​

Winner!

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Multiple Choice

This principle limits violent damage to the soul and is the practice of mindfulness.

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All Voices Have Value.

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Speaking Your Truth.

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Suspending Judgment.

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Practice...

Slowing...

Down...

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-Count to 5 Seconds Before Responding.

-Practice Box Breathing to slow ​your Vagal Nerve function.

-Intentionally practice slowing down in your everyday life.​

Strategies for Slowing Down When Activated

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Multiple Choice

Creating space between assumptions and our reactions

requires the use of this Principle.

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Suspending Judgment.

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Listening Deeply.

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Practicing...

Slowing...

Down...

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Maintaining Confidentiality.

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-Be present in the moment and open your mind to learning from the experience.

-Do your own work in suspending judgments about yourself and others by attending PJI Retreats and Trainings.​

Suspending Judgment

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Multiple Choice

Before responding, take time to reflect

without immediately filling the space with words.

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Speak Your Truth.

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Respect

Silence.

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Maintain Confidentiality.

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Identify

Assumptions.

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Explore your own reactions to silence. Does it makes you feel uncomfortable and uneasy or validated and heard?

Soften your eyes and look at the speaker as they share.

How to Respect Silence.​

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Multiple Choice

This Principle teaches us to achieve a

balance between listening, reflecting, speaking and acting.

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Practice asking

honest and

open questions.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Respect

Silence.

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Listen

Deeply.

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Holding silence in a space is necessary to listen deeply.

Count to 5 after a speaker finishes before responding.​ Reflect while you are in the silence.

How to ​

Listen Deeply.

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Multiple Choice

This Principle requires every participant, leader and group members alike, to presume all are welcomed and to extend hospitality.

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Maintain confidentiality.

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Give space for unpopular answers.

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Create a hospitable and accountable community.

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Listen Deeply.

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-Do the work to be comfortable in your own skin so that you may fully welcome others as they are.​

Creating a Hospitable and Accountable Community

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Multiple Choice

This Principle encourages us to examine

and identify our own judgments, set them aside

and open ourselves to the possibility in learning something new.

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Identify

Assumptions.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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All Voices

Have

Value.

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Create an

Advice Free Zone.

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-Become aware and identify your assumptions.

-Ask yourself what part of your story leads to your assumptions. Do the work to challenge them by attending PJI Trainings and Retreats.

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Identifying Assumptions.

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Multiple Choice

In this Principle, PJI facilitators work to

protect what is said here, stays here.

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Respect

Silence,

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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All Voices

Have Value.

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Maintain

Confidentiality.

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-It primes group members to be vulnerable and open to share honestly.

-It is essential for keeping people emotionally and psychologically safe.

-It can help others heal from their past pain and mistrust.​

Why Confidentiality?

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Multiple Choice

The Principle is encouraged through the use of "I" Statements.

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All Voices

Have Value.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Create an

Advice

Free

Zone.

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Maintain

Confidentiality

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-Use the template above to model an "I" Statement.

-Familiarize and practice use of "I" Statements in your significant relationships.​

-"I" Statements allow the person to take responsibility for their own thoughts and feelings.​

Strategies for "I" Statements

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Multiple Choice

This Principle teaches us what to do when things get difficult.

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Respect

Silence.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Turn to Wonder.

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Practice...

Slowing...

Down...

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-Use wonder when you begin to feel judgmental or defensive.

-Turn to wonder when things may need to be addressed.

How to Respectfully "Challenge" Ideas

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What NEW insight has occurred to you as we wrap up?

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Multiple Choice

This Principle defines a great question as

ambiguous, personal and one that provokes anxiety.

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All Voices

Have

Value.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Give Space

for Unpopular

Answers.

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Practice

Asking

Honest &

Open

Questions.

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-Ask questions which allow the focus person to explore their thought rather than satisfy your own curiosity.

-Give a person autonomy and dignity by asking questions that you cannot possibly know the answer.

-​Read "Guideline for Asking H&O Questions.

Strategies for Asking Honest & Open Questions

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Multiple Choice

To cultivate this Principle we must replace advice

with curiosity and aim to discover our own truths.

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Listen

Deeply.

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Create an

Advice

Free

Zone.

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Give

Space for

Unpopular

Answers.

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When Things Get Difficult, Turn to Woner.

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-If you are following the other 12 Principles there won't be room to give advice.

​-It is not our job to "fix" others.

Creating Advice Free Zones.

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Multiple Choice

In this Principle, the group is trustworthy when a

person feels valued enough to speak and stand for something.

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All Voices

Have

Value.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Suspend

Judgment.

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Maintain

Confidentiality.

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-Our job is to hold these moments when a person speaks their truth as precious.

All Voices Have Value

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Multiple Choice

In this Principle, the work is in being present and not debate, correct or interpret.

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Listen

Deeply.

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Give

Space for

Unpopular

Answers.

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Identify

Assumptions.

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Speak

Your

Truth.

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Give Space for Unpopular Answers.

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What NEW insight has occurred to you as we wrap up?

Principles For How We Treat Each Other

By Suzanne Higbie-Long

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