Forbearance (Hilm) and Patience

​Lesson 5. Forbearance (Hilm) and Patience

"WALT To understand the concepts of forbearance and patience, and how to apply them daily.

What causes impatience?
How to develop patience as a valuable personal skill."
We are problem-solving for impatience.

Objective: By the end of this lesson, students will be able to identify the importance of patience and develop strategies for cultivating patience as a personal skill.

​Wedesday, October 22, 2025

Forbearance
(Hilm) and
Patience

Multiple Choice

What type of emotions are discussed in the video?

• Happiness and joy
  

• Anger and frustration
  

• Fear and excitement
  

   

• Love and hope

Multiple Choice

What is anger described as in the video?

• A feeling you get when something good happens.

• A strong feeling you get when something bad happens or someone does something wrong.

• A feeling of sadness or embarrassment.

• A feeling that only some people experience.

Multiple Choice

Which of these is a physical sensation you might experience when angry?

• Heart beats slower.

• Muscles feel relaxed.

• Breathing gets shorter.

• Feeling cold.

Multiple Choice

What should you do according to the advice given in the video?

• Always keep your feelings to yourself
  

• Work hard without breaks
  
  

• Reflect on your feelings

• Share everything with everyone

Multiple Choice

According to the video, what should you do when you feel overwhelmed?

• Keep working
  

• 
  Ignore it
  

• Stop and think

• Talk to someone

Discussion.
What is the importance of patience in daily life? examples of situations where patience is valuable, Waiting in line,
Dealing with difficult people,
Working towards long-term goals.
Studying for the exam.
Exercising

Examples for Good Manners

Honesty

Trust

Sincerity

Forbearance

Courage

Kindness

Forbearance (Hilm)

and Patience

If Allah were to punish men for their wrongdoing,
He would not leave, on the (earth), a single living
creature: but He gives them respite for a stated

WHAT IS THE MEANING OF ( Hilm) Forbearance

Forbearance (Hilm) means a wisdom and forgiveness that allows a person to control their anger and to avoid 

violence and meet the bad attitude with goodness.

One of  Allah’s names is Al-Haleem which means the Forbearing, The Most Kind and Gentle.

قال تعالى : 

".....وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ "﴿١٣٤﴾سورة آل عمران

Those who spend generously (in the cause of Allah), whether they are in prosperity or in adversity, who control their anger and forgive other people for Allah loves such charitable people

Multiple Choice

Al-Haleem one of Allah’s names means.................

• Al_ Knowing

• Al_Malik

• The Most Gracious
• The Most Forbearing

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• Activity 1.

• "Take a moment to reflect on your current level of patience. Write down situations where you feel you may struggle with patience and situations where you believe you demonstrate patience effectively. Consider your reactions and behaviors in these scenarios.

  Rate your overall patience level on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being very low patience and 10 being very high patience.

A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and told him:

“O Messenger of God, give me an advice”

The Prophet (peace be upon him) told him “Do not get angry”

And the man repeated his request two more times, and the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave him the same answer each time he asked the same question “Do not get angry”

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was a great example of forbearance and forgiveness he always used to forgive and pardon people.

The Prophet (pbuh) never used to get angry and always used to teach others not to get angry. 

The Prophet (pbuh) said: a strong person is not he who can overpower others but is that person who can control his anger.

Multiple Choice

Forbearance (Hilm) means

• Sincerity

• forgiveness

• honesty

How do we Deal with that Anger?


1. To seek Refuge with Allah from Satan'To say
"Audhubillahiminashaytannirajim."

2. Changing your posture: The Prophet of Allah said, "When one of
you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger
leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie don."
3. Keeping quiet: The Prophet (PBUH) said, “If one of you becomes
angry then he should stay silent.” This is an important practice
because when we are angry our actions and speech may be
excessive and unjust.
4.Wudu can also be a shield against anger. The Prophet (PBUH)
said, “Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created from
fire, and fire is extinguished only with water. So when one of you
becomes angry, he should make wudu.”

The prophet peace be upon him said“Calm is from
God, and haste is from Shaytan.

The Prophet (may the peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) saying, "A judge should not
judge between two persons while he is in an
angry mood

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• Activity 2

• list personal strategies you can use to develop patience.

• consider the strategies based on the teaching of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh).

Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Messenger of
Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, said to Ashajj ‘Abdu’l-Qays, “You
have two qualities that Allah loves:
forbearance and patience.” [Muslim.

Multiple Choice

What did the prophet( pbuh) advice the man who asked him for advice

• Do not get angry

• Do not tell lies

• Do not break the trust

Multiple Choice

"Audhubillahiminashaytannirajim." means

• In the name of Allah

• All praise be to Allah

• I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan

Praiseworthy Anger

Sometimes anger can be good.  The Prophet never got angry except when the commandments of Allah were violated. However, if we do feel anger for the sake of Allah, we should make sure that we are not getting angry for our ego or interests. We should express our anger in the right way; just because the anger is for the right cause does not give anyone the license to behave badly. 

There should also be some benefit in the anger. If expressing anger leads to more harm than benefit, then it should be avoided based on the principle of balancing benefit and harm.For example, when giving advice: say it in a good way, use good words and the best manners, and be careful not to escalate into a quarrel.

Benefits of the forbearance and patience

Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah
bless him and grant him peace, said to Ashajj ‘Abdu’l-Qays,
“You have two qualities which Allah loves: forbearance and
steadiness.” [Muslim.

1. The love of Allah (swt).

2. Strengthen the relationships between people and spreads love.

3. The Muslim will win Allah’s reward and paradise.

Multiple Choice

Who was the companion who has two qualities which Allah loves: forbearance and patience .” as mentioned in the hadith of the prophet(pbuh)

• Zaid bin Thabit

• Bilal bin Rabah

• Ashajj ‘Abdu’l-Qays

Multiple Choice

How do we Deal with that Anger?

• To say "Audhubillahiminashaytannirajim."

• Changing your posture

• make Wudu

• All mentioned

​Activity 3

• Write the principles of forbearance and patience, and explain how they can be applied daily.

4.One of Allah’s attribute and his apostles.

5. The person will gain people respect and
avoid himself the evil.

Conclusion

1.Forbearance (Hilm) means a
wisdom and forgiveness.

2. Always control your anger by
following the prophet (pbuh) way
and forgive people when they
misbehaved with you

The Value of the lesson:
Forbearance and Tolerance

Multiple Choice

Anger can be positive only if it was for the sake of Allah

• True

• False

• There is no anger

  considered positive.