Social Health lesson 4- skills

Social Health Unit

Lesson 4-relationship skills

I can:

• Examine the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.

• Identify the qualities of a healthy dating relationship.

• Explain how adolescent perceived norms influence healthy and unhealthy behaviors.

Social Health
The ability to get along
with others around you

Honesty
Respect Trust

FRIENDSHIPS

Honesty
Respect Trust

FAMILY

Honesty
Respect
Trust

DATING

Open Ended

What skills are needed to build honesty, respect and trust to have a healthy relationship?

Relationship Skills
Communication
Listening
Body Language & tone
Understanding
Acceptance / Forgiveness
Resolving Conflict

Relationship Skills

Why do we need healthy relationships?

​class discussion

Poll

How do you communicate to your friends most often?

• text

• phone call

• in person

• online

Communication

1. Face to face

2. Phone call

3. Text / Email...

   NOT FOR RESOLVING CONFLICT

Communication

Open, honest communication should be part of every healthy relationship. It’s okay to get angry in a relationship, everyone does at some point!
What’s important is to resolve conflict in a healthy way.

SCENARIO

My best friend and I kind of had an argument today during lunch. It wasn't really that serious but they got upset when I explained that I had soccer tryouts this afternoon and couldn't come over like we planned.

SCENARIO

After a disagreement, Sam, the person that you are dating, uses the silent treatment and won’t talk to you for days.

During that time, you have a sporting event that’s important to you. Usually, Sam is there to cheer you on, but this time decides not to.

You become extremely frustrated, and that night, you send Sam a text with insulting words demanding a call immediately, even though you have both already gone to bed.

Sam responds by saying that it would be best to talk at school in the in the morning.

Find the Right Time

Try to find a time when both of you are calm and not distracted, stressed or in a rush. You might even consider scheduling a time to talk if one or both of you is really busy!

Face to Face

Avoid talking about serious matters or issues in writing.
Text messages, letters and emails can be misinterpreted.
Talk in person or on the phone so there aren’t any unnecessary miscommunications.

Check your body language

• ​Make eye contact when speaking face-to-face.

• Sit up and face the other person.

• Let them know you’re listening and show them you really care.

• Don’t take a phone call, text or play a video game when you’re talking.

• Listen and respond.

48 Hour Rule

If you are upset you don’t have to address it right away. If you’re still hurt 48 hours later, say something.
If not, consider forgetting about it.
But remember people can’t read your mind. If you don’t speak up when you’re upset, there is no way for them to apologize or change.

Acceptance / Forgiveness
After you tell them how you feel,
remember to stop talking and
listen to what they have to say.

Once they sincerely apologize, let it go.
Don’t bring up past issues if they’re not relevant.

Multiple Choice

Is the silent treatment an effective way to communicate?

• yes

• no

• sometimes

Multiple Choice

Is it good to communicate by text to resolve a conflict?

• yes

• no

• sometimes

Multiple Choice

Do you think it is appropriate to demand an immediate response during a fight?

• yes

• no

• sometimes

Great job!

Next class we will talk about relationship skills.

Have a great day!