RULER Tools: Best Self, Meta-Moment & Blueprint

Multiple Choice

Which of the following is NOT a part of the RULER approach?

• Recognize

• Understand

• Label

• Regret

Multiple Choice

What does it mean to be your 'best self'?

• Being perfect all the time

• Behaving according to your core values and beliefs

• Doing what others expect of you

• Never making mistakes

Multiple Choice

Which of the following is NOT a step in the meta-moment process? Check all that apply.

• Sense

• React immediately

• Pause

• Strategize & Act

Open Ended

What is one strategy that YOU use to help you react appropriately to a challenging situation, such as a conflict with a friend, sibling, parent, or teacher?

Multiple Choice

Which of the following is NOT a strategy idea for responding to a challenging situation?

• Deep breathing

• Counting to 10

• Ignoring your feelings

• Journaling

Multiple Select

Jane angrily confronts her friend in the locker bay and yells at her in front of everyone. Jane's friend gets very upset and starts to cry. A month later, they're no longer speaking.

Could a Meta-Moment have helped Jane handle this situation differently?

• Yes

• Definitely

• Of course

• Nah

Multiple Choice

Instead, Jane pauses, takes a deep breath, and considers why her friend might have invited a new student. She reminds herself that both she and her friend really value being inclusive and kind. She asks to talk to her friend privately.

What might be the outcome in this case?

• A month later, Jane and her friend aren’t speaking. The conflict between them has caused a rift in their friendship group. Some people have taken Jane's side, while others have backed her former best friend. Every recess is DRAMA.

• The friend explains she only had 1 ticket & knew that the new student had never been. She apologizes for not telling Jane first. Jane says that she's disappointed but understands. A month later, they’re still friends.

Multiple Select

Jeff is upset. How could he use a meta-moment to keep the situation from turning immediately into an argument? Check all that apply.

• Yell at his parents that he will never be good enough for them.

• Sense that he is feeling upset and defensive.

• Pause and take a deep breath.

• Tell his parents that he needs to take a walk first, but that he will talk to them about it later.

Fill in the Blanks

To prevent this situation from escalating, Frida might take a deep breath, think about her ​

, and remind herself that ​sportsmanship is very important to her. Mistakes are made in games after all! She could then focus on playing her very best for the rest of the game.

Fill in the Blanks

The Blueprint is a tool for

that can help resolve conflicts.

Multiple Select

What are some purposes of the Blueprint? Check all that apply.

• To help reflect on situations from multiple perspectives

• To resolve and prevent conflicts

• To ignore difficult emotions

• To build understanding of how everyone is feeling