M6.1 INTERSUBJECTIVITY

By Roseann Tolosa

​Seeming

​Dialogue

​3 Levels of Intersubjectivity

​3 Levels of Intersubjectivity

2 Ways We Relate with Others

According to Martin Buber (1878-1965)

​Alienation

Multiple Choice

An ambitious person only interacts with a colleague because of the potential advantage or promotion that the colleague could provide. Their conversations are always steered toward mutual gain or benefit, not genuine interest in the person themselves.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

Someone dates another person primarily for their appearance or status. The relationship focuses on the other person's attributes as possessions rather than their interior life or feelings.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

Two musicians are improvising together and, without needing verbal cues, are able to anticipate, respond to, and build upon each other's ideas. They are momentarily lost in the moment of creation, viewing the other as an essential, complementary voice.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A friend listens to another who is grieving a major loss, not offering solutions or comparing their own past experiences, but simply being fully present and attuned to the other person's raw pain without judgment or agenda.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A team leader assigns work to a subordinate strictly based on their quantifiable skills and never takes time to learn about their goals, concerns, or personal motivations, treating them solely as a producer of output.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A parent gazes at their newborn child, and for that moment, they see the child not as a responsibility or a bundle of needs, but as a unique, whole being. The encounter is one of complete acceptance and unconditional love.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

Two people waiting for a bus start talking, and the conversation quickly moves beyond small talk. They share a personal insight or profound thought, recognizing the humanity and vulnerability in the other person for that brief, intense period.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A person meets someone and immediately files them into a pre-conceived category based on race, job title, or clothing, and only relates to the stereotype, not the individual.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A mentor sees a student struggling with a concept. Instead of merely repeating the lesson (I-It), the mentor fully focuses on the student's unique way of thinking, meeting them exactly where they are to help them realize the answer for themselves.

• I-it

• I-thou

Multiple Choice

A customer only sees the agent as the function they perform and speaks to them strictly according to a script or functional need, ignoring their personhood (mood, personal day, etc.).

• I-it

• I-thou