Habit #5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

According "The 7 Habits of the Highly Effective Teen", when people talk we seldom listen because we’re usually too busy preparing a response,

judging, or thinking about how their situation relates to us.

• True

• False

____________ is when someone is talking to us but we ignore them because our mind is

wandering off in another galaxy

• Spacing Out

• Pretend Listening

• Selective Listening

• Word Listening

• Self-Centered Listening

__________________________ happens when we see everything from our own point of view.

Instead of standing in another’s shoes, we want them to stand in ours.

• Spacing Out

• Pretend Listening

• Selective Listening

• Word Listening

• Self-Centered Listening

__________________________ occurs when we actually pay attention to what someone is saying, but we

listen only to the words, not to the body language, the feelings, or the true meaning behind

the words.

• Spacing Out

• Pretend Listening

• Selective Listening

• Word Listening

• Self-Centered Listening

__________________________ is when we aren’t paying much attention to the other

person, but at least we pretend we are by making comments.

• Spacing Out

• Pretend Listening

• Selective Listening

• Word Listening

• Self-Centered Listening

__________________________ is where we pay attention only to the part of the conversation that

interests us.

• Spacing Out

• Pretend Listening

• Selective Listening

• Word Listening

• Self-Centered Listening

A sister who needs a listening ear says to her brother:

“I hate our new school. Ever since we moved I’m like the biggest outcast. I wish I could

find some new friends already.”

If her brother says,“Pass the chips?”, what Poor Listening Style is he using?

• Pretend Listening

• Spacing Out

If her brother says, “Yeah, yeah, sounds great.”, what Poor Listening Style is he using?

• Pretend Listening

• Spacing Out

If her brother says, “Speaking of friends, my friend Julio . . .”, what Poor Listening Style is he using?

• Selective Listening

• Spacing Out

If her brother says, “What you need to do is start meeting new people.”, he is giving advice. In 7 Habits, the author tells us that we should not offer advice unless we are asked to.

• Got it!

• Okay!