CONFLICT RESOLUTION

When we are talking about friendship, what does a CONFLICT mean?

• A war

• Getting along great every day

• Disagreements, Arguments, and Fights

• Means Texts only

ONE of the reasons conflicts start is because of some us being COMPETITIVE. Which of these is a good example of being competitive?

• "But I wanted to play with the tablet next"

• "It's my turn to sit in the front seat"

• "Give me that, you don't even know how to use it"

• "NO, I won the race! You cheated... I came in first"

Another reason Conflict starts is because of FRUSTRATION. WE sometimes think we are kings and queens and everyone of our wishes should be granted and given to us. Which is the best example of this below?

• "It's my turn to ride the scooter"

• "I CANT believe you brought her a red bracelet, but you only brought me a sticker! You like her more than me, we're not friends anymore."

• "You used the playstation yesterday, today its for me."

• "Save me a piece of the cake or else"

Sometimes conflicts start because of MISINFORMATION, or believing rumors. Which below is the best example of MISINFORMATION.

• "Melissa told me you were telling everyone in the cafeteria that I wasn't good at basketball. I can't believe you would go behind my back... you know what, we are not friends anymore!"

• "Give me the jump rope because you don't even know how to use it."

• "That's mine!"

• "You can't sit here, we are not friends"

Being bossy is something that causes conflict because sometimes we believe that people should be following our orders... which of these is an example of being bossy?

• "I won the fortnite battle yesterday, I'm the fortnite champion of the world!"

• "It's my turn today... you always want to keep the controller"

• "She said that you were wearing ugly shoes"

• "So you better not talk or text her anymore... you either stop talking to her or we won't be friends anymore. Block her on Instagram now!"

When there is a conflict, you can either react NEGATIVE or POSITIVE. A NEGATIVE response is one that is made quickly and with a lot of emotion. A POSITIVE response is made calmly and with talking and listening.

• True

• False

What is an example of a NEGATIVE response?

• "Listen... lets sit down and talk about it"

• "I really dont like when you come in to my room because this is my privacy. Please knock"

• "If you give me 3 minutes to finish my homework, you can come in my room"

• "I TOLD YOU TO GET OUT!!! YOU NEVER KNOCK!! GET OUT OF MY ROOM ALREADY!!"

What is an example of a POSITIVE response?

• "LEAVE ME ALONE ALREADY!"

• "I know you want to play right now, but if you let me finish chatting with my friend, we can play in a little bit."

• "I'M NOT GOING TO PLAY OYOUR DUMB BABY GAME, GO AWAY"

• "THAT'S ENOUGH... GET OUT!"

When we reply NEGATIVELY, it hurts our friendships and our relationships.

• True

• False

When we react POSITIVELY, we build better relationships and stronger friendships.

• True

• False