Interpersonal Relationship Skills

You enter your class and find your friend crying over her performance on a recent test. IF all she needed was someone to help her co-regulate, you should...

• Analyse her answer sheet and find faults in her approach to the questons

• Allow her to be upset and hold space for her pain

• Advise her to start her preparations earlier the next time

• Tell her that she shouldn't feel this bad over a test

Answer explanation

We often try to rationalise, reason, logic our way away from unwanted feelings (like that of upset). In order to help your friend co-regulate all you need to do is make it safe for her to express and experience her emotions/feelings without trying to "make them go away"

You are not a fan of Monopoly. When your dear friend Rekha communicates to you that she needs you to show up for the elaborate board-game nights she plans every weekend, you...

• Find excuses to avoid game-nights

• Attend the gatherings when Monopoly is not being played

• Attend the gatherings but not play on Monopoly nights

• Think of Rekha as inconsiderate

Answer explanation

Fulfilling relationships meet the needs of all parties involved to some extent most of the time. Striking a compromise is often a great way to resolve conflict. It often begins with listening closely and paying attention to what one's friend communicates and meeting them half-way!

Jhanvi watched an intern accidently spill water all over his pants on his first day at the offiice, she did NOT empathise with him, what did she do?

• She felt embarassed on his behalf

• She looked away to avoid him any further embarassement

• She pointed and laughed

• She pulled out her phone to capture it on camera for her friends who missed it

Answer explanation

As Jhanvi did NOT empathise with the intern, she must have either pointed and laughed or pulled out her phone to record the event, or both!

Sasha's roommate keeps entering her room without knocking and this peeves her to no end. Sasha wants her privacy to be respected but also to have a good relationship with her roommate. What should she do?

• Hate her roommate secretly

• Make snide comments every time her roommate enters without knocking

• Let her roommate know that she is not comfortable with them barging in, and to ask them to knock before they enter the next time

• Start entering her roommate's space without knocking to give them a taste of their own medicine

Answer explanation

Often times when we find ourselves complaining, we are in need of setting a boundary. Boundaries are the distance at which we can love others and ourselves at the same time. Setting a boundary often involves using our assertiveness skills!

For internal assessment class of FYBSc was assigned group work. They would be graded as a team and as individual members. Shreya happens to come across a research paper that simplifies the main concept that her group needs to present on. If she is a team player she would...

• Share the paper with Sanjay becayse he is the group leader but no one else gets a peek

• Share the paper with her friends Rakhi and Hema but not with any other group member

• Keep the paper to herself in hopes of being the most impressive presenter in the group

• Share the paper with all the members

Answer explanation

To be a team player, means to be an individual who willingly shares resources with all group members who could benefit from it. As Shreya is a team player who has come upon a research paper that would benefit all members of her group, it can be inferred that she would share the paper with all group members in hopes that they would benefit from the same.