Emotional Control

Emotional intelligence is ________________________________.

• being smart about emotional situations

• the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions.

• never getting angry

Being able to imagine what emotions a person is likely to be feeling (even when you don't actually know) is called ________.

• sympathy

• pity

• empathy

Often it's important to express how you feel. But managing your reaction means knowing when, where, and ___________ to express yourself.

• why

• who

• how

Emotion and mood are difficult to control. We DO NOT have the power to decide what mood is right for a situation, and then to get into that mood.

• True

• False

Emotional intelligence is something that develops as we get _________________.

• older

• smarter

• more college degrees

What is resilience?

• One of your emotions

• A new dance move

• The ability to bounce back after something tough

• When you cry and hide when something bad happens

INSTEAD OF THINKING:

I'm not good at this

TRY THINKING.....

• I should just give up now!

• What am I missing?

• Sarah is so much better than me.

• I will never be able to do this.

INSTEAD OF THINKING:

I give up!

TRY THINKING.....

• Everyone is better than me

• I will try for 1 more minute, then I will give up

• I should never have even tried

• I'm going to keep trying :)

INSTEAD OF THINKING:

I've messed up!

TRY THINKING.....

• I'm so dumb

• Nothing ever works for me

• Mistakes help me learn

• I hate this

What can you do to calm yourself?

• Share your feelings

• Take deep breaths

• Move your body

• Ask for help