Y1 PEYAA RGS CAREShare Series 1: Validation & LEAPERS

What is something you should not do when trying to validate someone?

• Giving encouragement to the sharer

• Ask a lot of 'why' questions

• Reflecting the sharer's feelings

• Showing empathy by using a feeling word

"I wanted to take part in a competition, but my teachers chose my batchmates as participants instead of me, despite knowing how much I wanted it. Am I not good enough?" How should you validate someone who has told you this?

• "Maybe you should have tried harder and trained more!"

• "No,, you are good enough. You just need more practice."

• "Try approaching your teacher and ask if she would reconsider her decision."

• "You seem frustrated that you were not chosen. Why do you think your batchmate was chosen instead of you?"

Which of these is the full form of the acronym LEAPERS?

• Passive listening, Encouraging, Ask answers, ,Paraphrase, Enunciate, Reflection, Summarise

• Articulate feelings, Empathise, Active listening, Paraphrase, Encourage, Reflect feelings, Summarise

• Articulate feelings, Encourage, Paraphrase, Understand Situation, Empathise, Ask questions, Reflect feelings

• Active listening, Empathise, Ask questions,, Paraphrase, Encourage, Reflect Feelings, Summarise

We need to use all the points in LEAPERS to be successful in validating someone. True or false?

• True

• False

"My best friend unfriended me and blocked me on all my social media accounts. I have been feeling extremely down recently." How should you validate someone who has told you this?

• "BLOCK HER! and NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN!"

• "It sounds like you are feeling distressed about this scenario, am I right?"

• "I understand how you're feeling, that happened to me a long time ago. This is what you should do..."

• "...you should not care about her, she's just being annoying..."

Why does LEAPERS not have to be strictly followed in order?

• Not all the steps may be relevant in every scenerio

• Some situations require none of the steps

• For maximum quality of conversation, the order is completely irrelevant

• To ensure that we can listen actively to the sharer instead of forcusing on recalling steps

Which of these are examples of validation for someone who is feeling down?"

• "It's fine, good job"

• "You are so smart anyways, snap out of it"

• "Me too"

• "I am here for you and your feelings matter"

Validation consists of giving assurance, advice, and praise as this will make them feel better about themselves. True or false?

• False

• True