The Secret to Having Amazing Conversations(@IMPROVEMENTPILL)

Someone has shared an experience or happening with you!

You advance the conversation by asking; "How does it ____?"

Answer explanation

For example, if someone has moved away from home, asking "How does it feel to be away from home?" could make a huge difference.

When someone gives you information or tells you a story,

you continue the conversation by...

• waiting for them to continue

• listening intently

• asking them to elaborate on how it felt

• sharing information or telling stories about yourself

Answer explanation

Asking how something feels opens up the conversation, allowing a more vulnerable and memorable interaction.

Why is the simple question "How does it feel?" so powerful?

• Indicates that you are listening very carefully to their story

• It provides a platform for further conversations where you don't have to listen to their feelings

• Shows that you care enough about their story to ask them to elaborate

• It prompts them to share their emotions with you, something you normally wouldn't do with a stranger

• It is really nice and gives off mega big brain vibes, no cap.

Answer explanation

Showing that you actually care about someone's stories and input, as well as establishing yourself as a good listener will make the interaction more memorable, leave a good impression, and make the person more comfortable to speak and share with you.

Making an __________ about someone in a conversation will make it more memorable.

Answer explanation

An assumption is when you guess something about another person. It could be something like "You seem like an only child". People usually respond to assumptions as if they are questions.

An assumption can be ____ or _____, and the response will stem from that.

Answer explanation

Two very different conversations can sprout from the same questions or assumptions.

If the Assumption is true, they might respond...

• No, why would you think that?

• Yeah, how did you know?

• Is it that obvious?

• What makes you think that?

• No...

Answer explanation

If the assumption is true, it makes you seem like some kind of a psychic, that you've been paying such close attention that you can see into their soul, and it is extremely memorable because it is very rare to meet someone who pays such close attention.

If the Assumption is false, they might respond...

• No, why would you think that?

• Yeah, how did you know?

• Is it that obvious?

• What makes you think that?

• No...

Answer explanation

If the assumption is false, it causes the other person to respond with a question, which gives you a chance to take the conversation deeper. It is easy to respond to this with some kind of compliment, which is extremely powerful because it adds a compliment along with another assumption, giving them the opportunity to share some kind of story.

Another great question to ask is ​" (a)   is the ​ (b)   ?"​

• what
• story
• where
• how
• occasion
• need
• reason
• pizza

Answer explanation

You can ask "What's the story?" referring to many different aspects of a person, being an article of clothing, tattoo, scar, or something they believe in.

"What is the story?" is a good question to ask because it directly prompts the

other person to share a _____ with you.

Answer explanation

The more stories someone shares with you, the closer they will feel to you, because the truth is, there aren't many people in our lives we can share stories with.

Don't ask the same kind of ________ back to back.

Answer explanation

No one likes a robot who only asks for stories about their tattoos. Get a life.