RED FLAGSSS!!!!

Your partner needs to eat a sweet treat after dinner every night. You don’t have the same craving. This is a…

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• Red Flag: This is going to annoy you over time and make meals unbearable.

• Beige flag This habit won’t affect the important parts of your relationship.

• Green flag It’s good to date someone with different habits than you.

You’re swiping on a dating app and come across a profile where most answers to prompts start with phrases like, “Don’t contact me if…” or “I don’t want to meet anyone who likes…” This is a…

• Red flag They seem to be concentrating too much on what they don’t want, not what they do want.

• Green flag They are being discerning and that’s a good thing.

• Beige flag This is just their sense of humor and doesn’t signal anything good or bad.

You go on a great first date during which you tell the other person that you don’t invite people over to your apartment until you’ve been on more than three dates together.

For the second date, you suggest meeting at a bar or a park. They respond enthusiastically, but suggest meeting at your apartment, instead. This is a…

• Red flag They didn’t listen to or didn’t care about the boundaries you set.

• Green flag They must really like you if they want to come over.

• Beige flag They just suggested what they thought would be fun. It isn’t indicative of whether they respect your boundaries

You’re on a date and ask the other person about their past relationship. They respond, “They were nice, but we grew apart and seemed to have different long-term goals,” and then change the subject. This is a…

• Red flag Changing the subject means they are hiding something.

• Green flag They answered the question but didn’t talk about their ex the whole date.

• Beige flag They were just answering the question. It doesn’t mean anything in regards to how they feel about their past relationship.

You’ve come to the end of a date, and the other person says they’ll text you to set up plans soon. On your way home, you get a text asking if you’d like to have dinner at a new restaurant next week. This is a…

• Red flag They followed up too quickly, which must mean they are desperate.

• Green flag They communicate clearly and then follow through on promises.

• Beige flag They are just someone who likes to set up plans.

You’re on a first date and the banter is great. You find them funny and attractive. When you start talking about interests, you share that you’re a homebody and don’t like to spend a ton of money on vacation. They say they are the opposite and like to travel as much as possible. This is a…

• Red flag Your lifestyles might not align.

• Green flag Opposites attract! And maybe you can each learn to like the other’s lifestyle.

• Beige flag Traveling is a hobby, not a character trait. There is no need to pay too much attention to how much they like vacationing.