Second Step Conflict Resolution Questions

Describe a time when someone blamed you for something that wasn’t your fault. What did the other person think in that situation?

Read each statement. Choose the option that rewrites the statement using these guidelines to make it respectful: - It doesn’t use blame language - It doesn’t make the conflict worse - It helps resolve the conflict Statement: “It’s all your fault our project isn’t done!”

• I feel concerned about our project's progress. Can we discuss how to move forward?

• You never finish your tasks on time, and now the project is delayed.

• It's your responsibility to ensure the project is completed, not mine.

• Why didn't you complete your part of the project?

Read each statement. Rewrite the statements using these guidelines to make them respectful: - It doesn’t use blame language - It doesn’t make the conflict worse - It helps resolve the conflict Try saying the statements aloud before you write them down. Statement: “You’re so slow! You always make us late!”

• I feel anxious about being late. Can we try to leave earlier next time?

• You need to hurry up so we aren't late again.

• Why can't you ever be on time?

• It's your fault we're always late.

Which of the following is a respectful way to express concern about someone leaving their belongings around?

• You always leave your stuff everywhere!

• I notice that sometimes things are left around, can we find a solution together?

• Why can't you ever clean up after yourself?

• It's your fault that the place is messy.

Which statement does the group think is most respectful? Choose from the following: 1. “It’s all your fault our project isn’t done!” 2. “You’re so slow! You always make us late!” 3. “You leave your stuff everywhere!”

• It’s all your fault our project isn’t done!

• You’re so slow! You always make us late!

• You leave your stuff everywhere!

What language did the other person use that made what they said a blame statement?

• They used 'I' statements.

• They used 'You' statements.

• They used neutral language.

• They used positive reinforcement.