Needs, Boundaries, Requests and Demands review

A need does not require a specific person to do a specific thing. That's called a ______.

• request

• demand

• need

• boundary

Setting a boundary informs others what meets your needs and what does not. It's not a judgment, accusation, demand or __________.

• request

• statement

• ultimatum

• question

Our different ideas about how to get our needs met are ________.

• acceptable

• reasonable

• problematic

• strategies

"I need you to text me on your lunch break daily" is a strategy to get a need for connection, but it's irresponsible, immature, ______, and codependent.

• self-centered

• insensitive

• manipulative

• ignorant

Demands are conducive to submission or _______, neither of which is healthy.

• rebellion

• obedience

• people-pleasing

• self-negation

One common mistake when setting a boundary is to follow your "I" statement with a _______.

• noun

• verb

• adjective

• pronoun

Another mistake when setting a boundary is to say "you make me feel..." since it's an unverifiable accusation, is irresponsible for one's own feelings, and the feeling statement is being ________ against the person.

• used

• weaponized

• taken

• thrown

Another mistake when setting a boundary is to use the word "should" because it is _______, controlling and shaming.

• judgmental

• unhelpful

• critical

• insensitive

"You" statements are also ineffective when setting a boundary because they are perceived as criticism that creates defensiveness, and subsequently contempt and __________.

• hatred

• conflict

• indifference

• avoidance

"Always" and "never" are emotionally charged exaggeration when ineffectively setting a boundary. This can be a considered to be a false ________ that leads to uncivil conflict.

• accusation

• statement

• judgment

• outlook