Understanding Expectations and Tendencies

The video discusses four types of personality tendencies: upholders, questioners, obligers, and rebels, each with unique ways of responding to expectations. Upholders meet both inner and outer expectations, questioners need reasons to comply, obligers meet outer but struggle with inner expectations, and rebels resist all expectations. The video provides strategies for managing these tendencies and emphasizes understanding and compassion in dealing with oneself and others.

What are the two types of expectations discussed in the video?

• Mandatory and Optional

• Personal and Professional

• Outer and Inner

• Short-term and Long-term

Which tendency readily meets both outer and inner expectations?

• Upholder

• Rebel

• Obliger

• Questioner

What is the motto of the Upholder tendency?

• Discipline is my freedom

• You can count on me

• You can't make me and neither can I

• If you convince me why, then I'll comply

What is a potential downside of being an Upholder?

• They can be too flexible

• They may become rigid

• They often procrastinate

• They struggle with outer expectations

What is the motto of the Questioner tendency?

• Discipline is my freedom

• You can count on me

• If you convince me why, then I'll comply

• You can't make me and neither can I

How can Questioners avoid analysis paralysis?

• By avoiding information

• By questioning more

• By setting limits and deadlines

• By ignoring deadlines

What is the motto of the Obliger tendency?

• If you convince me why, then I'll comply

• You can count on me and I'm counting on you to count on me

• You can't make me and neither can I

• Discipline is my freedom

What strategy can help Obligers meet inner expectations?

• Ignoring inner expectations

• Avoiding outer expectations

• Creating systems of outer accountability

• Setting personal goals

What is the motto of the Rebel tendency?

• If you convince me why, then I'll comply

• You can't make me and neither can I

• You can count on me

• Discipline is my freedom

How can you encourage a Rebel to attend a mandatory meeting?

• By setting a strict deadline

• By ignoring their resistance

• By explaining the benefits and giving them a choice

• By giving them strict orders