Guard Your Tongue

Guard Your Tongue

Think Before you Speak

Objective of the lesson

Speech can be noth positive and negative. If we are not careful, misuse of the tongue can cause serious trouble. The purpose of this lesson is to identify different kinds of sons committed by the toungue, in the form of negative speech. This lesson also discusses ways to remedy such sins.

The Tongue

The tongue is a very useful organ in the human body. Without the tongue we cannot do two very important things-- Eat or Talk. Our vocal cord may produce sounds but our tongue shapes the sound into words that makes sense.

Allah gave us a tongue-- an important organ in the body that can positively shape our lives or it can cause destruction. We should be in control of this organ. If we don't know how to control our tongues then we might end up with many problems in our daily life and in the hereafter.

Types of Verbal Sins

• Gossip

• Backbiting

• Slander, Insults, Defamation

• Ridicule, name-calling

• Lies, fabrications, falsifications

• Hypocrisy, Treachery

• Intentionally misquoting, Rumors

Qur'an and Sunnah on Verbal Sins

• We will find that Islam talks alot about verbal sins

• The Qur'an prohibits and forbids these verbal sins VERY seriously.

• The Qur'an is very strict and precise with calling out all types of verbal sins

• The Prophet Muhammad stressed the importance of cpntrolling our tongues

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The Prophet Muhammad stressed avoiding using inappropriate or negative use of the tongue, or use abusive language, because it can jeopardize our position of being a good Muslim.

Poll

Did you realize how serious it is in Islam to control what you say?

• No i didnt realize

• Yes I've always known

Tongues reveal true feelings

• Whatever is in your heart will eventually revealed by your tongue

• Your words will somehow reflect what you maintain in your heart

• Your words reflect your most inner thoughts.

• Therefore its important to maintain a good heart, If your heart is good then you will most likely not say bad things or commit verbal sins.

Gossip and Backbiting

• Gossip is Idle talk about someone or something ("Did you hear about this?....")

• Backbiting is saying something negative about someone behind their back even if it is true.

• Backbiting is like eating the flesh of your dead brother.

• Gossip is known as GHIBAH, a negative statement about someone that they would not have liked to be said.

Slander, Insults, Defamation

• Slander:Talking negative about a person or spreading rumors about a person in order to damage their reputation or status.

• Abdullah ibn Ubayy once spread a slander about Aishah (R)

• Whoever slanders the innocent then whatever damage they do will come back onto them.

• Allah strongly dislikes the slander of innocent people especially inocent women. Their punishment is in thi life AND in the next life.

• Never use you tongue to insult and defame someone back.

Ridicule and Name-calling

• The Qur'an prohibits riduculing and making fun of people

• We are no better than the next person

• If no one knows about our shortcomings it is because Allah covered them up from the people.

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Hypocrisy, Treachery

• Hypocrisy is saying one thing in one place but doing the opposite in another place.

• Hypocrites dont have any moral values

• Hypocrites publiclly state one opinion while holding a dofferent opinion in private.

• They promote Evil and forbid good deeds, and ignore the commands of Allah

Keep your promises

We should always be careful aout what we promise and make sure we can keep those promises. We should always try our best to keep pur promises because Allah will question us about them on Yawmul Qiyaamah.

 " O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allâh that you say that which you do not do." Surah Saf: 2-3

Spreading Rumors

• A Rumor is a statement that we hear from person they we don't verify if its true or not.

• We should always verify information because it is a command from Allah

• Rumors hurt people in many different ways.

Remedy for Verbal sins

• Be thankful there is a remedy for all types of sins

• Seek Help with Allah to remove our ability to commit sins.

• Make the effort to change ourselves and then Allah will help us

• If we see a group of people engaged in Idle talk we should turn away from them and spend time with people who are more positive.

Open Ended

Based on this lesson write Three Verbal Sins that people commit.

Multiple Choice

According the lesson what price could we pay for our verbal sins?

• Lots of money

• Our rewards with Alalh

• Our Job

• Our childhood

Multiple Choice

In The Qur'aan, which type of verbal deed is like eating the flesh of your dead brother?

• The sin of eating dead animals

• The sin of Backbiting

• The sin of slander

• the sin of hypocrisy

Open Ended

What do you think the Messenger of Allah meant when he said "The best Muslim is one from whose tongue and hands another Msulim feels safe."

Multiple Choice

When Prophet Ibrahims father insulted Ibrahim for speaking out against the Idols how did Ibrahim Respond?

• He insulted him in return

• He told his father to get out of his house

• He started fighting with him

• He offered him a greeting of peace

Open Ended

Surah Hujurat verse 11: O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it to insult one’s brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: "O sinner", or "O wicked"]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zâlimûn (wrong-doers, etc.).

Based on this verse, why should people not laugh at others?

Fill in the Blank

Our Faith Must be _______ . Only then we can avoid verbal sins.