Private Body Parts Rule

Kyle and Mr. Tully are neighbors. Everyone in the neighborhood knows Mr. Tully. He’s friendly and helpful, and everyone likes him. Mr. Tully is especially nice to Kyle. He gives him baseball cards and lets him come over to his house to play with his dog. Kyle sees Mr. Tully almost every day. Recently Mr. Tully started asking Kyle questions that make him feel uncomfortable, like whether he has a girlfriend yet.

Multiple Select

Do you think it’s okay for Mr. Tully to ask Kyle about whether he has a girlfriend?

• Yes

• Maybe

• No

​The next day Mr. Tully asks Kyle another uncomfortable question: “I have some pictures of people with no clothes on. Would you like to see them?” Kyle feels uncomfortable, but he’s also curious, so he agrees. Mr. Tully shows him photos of people’s private body parts. “These photos are just for you,” Mr. Tully tells Kyle. “Your family will be very angry with you if they find out you looked at these photos, but I won’t tell. This can be our secret.”

Open Ended

Recognise: Is Mr. Tully breaking the Private Body Parts Rule? If so, which part?

Multiple Select

Kyle agreed to look at Mr. Tully’s photos. Think about whether that means it’s Kyle’s fault Mr. Tully broke the rule.

• Yes, it is Kyle's fault.

• No, it is not Kyle's fault.

No. It’s never your fault if someone else breaks the Private Body Parts Rule.

Multiple Choice

Which is NOT one of the Ways to Stay Safe that Kyle should use in this situation?

• Recognize the broken rule

• Refuse to look at the photos

• Read a book about safety

• Report the broken rule

Remember, never keep secrets about someone breaking the Private Body Parts Rule. Kyle needs to report this to an adult who will help keep him safe. Let’s find out how Kyle keeps himself safe.

​First, Kyle trys to tell his mother while she was finishing some work, but she doesn’t believe him. “Mr. Tully is very nice. He would never do something like that,” she says.

Next, Kyle tells his older brother, but he doesn’t help either. “No way,” he says. “You’re just trying to get attention. Mr. Tully is nice to us!”

Open Ended

Look at the illustrations of Kyle telling his mother and brother, and think about what they said to him. Why didn’t Kyle’s mother and brother believe him?

Breaking the Private Body Parts Rule is wrong. People who break it may do things to keep it secret. They could make sure everyone likes them. They could bring children gifts. They could get children to do things they aren’t allowed to do so they’ll be afraid they’ll get in trouble if they report. They could even threaten children to try to stop them from reporting.

Kyle knows he has to keep reporting until an adult helps him. He decides to talk to his teacher. He stands up straight, faces his teacher, and says in a strong, respectful voice, “I need to report a broken Private Body Parts Rule.” This was an assertive way to report what happened.

After Kyle tells his teacher what happened, she thanks him for reporting. “What’s happening to you is not your fault, and I believe you.”

Kyle’s teacher makes sure Kyle stays safe and that Mr. Tully doesn’t break the Private Body Parts Rule again.

Multiple Choice

Why do you think Kyle’s teacher believed him?

• She didn’t know Mr. Tully.

• Kyle is always well behaved.

• Kyle reported assertively.

• She likes Kyle.

Every day you go to an ECA. There is one adult there who everyone thinks is really cool. She treats you in a special way, picking you to lead games, and even brings candy just for you. One day, she asks you to help her put away some basketballs. When you are alone, she touches your private body parts. She says if you report this, she will get in trouble and you can’t be friends anymore.

Open Ended

What did the adult do to keep the broken Private Body Parts Rule secret?