Opposite of Worry

Why is there no point in using logic or reason with your child when they are feeling highly emotional?

• Because they don't want to listen

• They are in Feelings brain so they don’t have access to Thinking brain where more flexible thinking and problem solving can occur.

• Teenagers generally don't believe in logic or reason

• If they are emotional they are just going to cry

When your child is having a big feeling, what’s the first step in helping him?

• Reassure him it's not as bad as he thinks

• Change the subject

• Sooth through comforting touch or closeness, acceptance, empathy

• Give him snacks

How do you do empathy? What does it

look/ sound like?

• Accepting eyes

• Naming child’s feelings

• Comforting presence

• All of the above

What’s the name for the parent attitude that combines Empathy and Calm Confidence?

• The Zen Parent

• The 3rd relaxed turkey

• Cool as a cucumber

• Calm 2^nd Chicken: Empathy +Calm Confidence

What is the Calm 2nd Chicken Question?

• What are you thinking right now?

• Are you going to calm down?

• Are you ok?

• Look into my eyes, I am here, do I look scared?

By being a Calm 2nd Chicken, what message are you trying to give your child?

• It is important that you calm down.

• I know you are safe and I know you can do this. I will support you and go at your pace.

• I am also feeling really anxious and angry

• Let's avoid this if it's going to cause problems.

What gets in the way for parents when they are trying to be a calm 2nd chicken for their child?

• Shark Music

• Other family members

• Time constraints

• External commitments

What is shark music

• The theme song for JAWS

• Any uncomfortable thought or feeling that gets in the way of seeing or meeting our child’s need.

• The child's attitude or anger

• Repeating arguments

After you have soothed your child using empathy and calm 2nd chicken, what type of activities might help him to reduce his anxiety further?

• Into body activities like shake your body

• Breathing exercises

• Any kind of focused physical activity

• Counting down from ten

• All of the above

When your child is in a situation that makes her feel anxious, which of the following responses can help your child to learn that she is safe and that she can cope

• Avoidance

• Flooding

• White knuckling

• Facing and Feeling