"I" message

Select the "I" message.

• You broke your promise. How can I trust you now?

• I feel sad because we didn't get to play. Promise is a big word. Please remember that.

• You don't give me any credit for my work. You're so ungrateful.

• You never help around the house. It's frustrating.

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• You're always interrupting me. And you never listen!

• I feel angry when you don't pay attention to what I'm saying.

• I feel sad when you're too distracted to listen. I want you to hear me out.

• I feel frustrated when you interrupt me, because I want to share with you. Can we work on this?

Scenario 1: Your teenaged son comes home very late.

• I feel worried when its well after home hours and there is no word from you. I need to be assured of your safety when you're away. How can we make sure you remember to check-in?

• No call? No message? Where were you and why were you so late?

• Your father and I were alarmed that you came home so late. Please don't let this happen again. It's not good to be out at this hour.

• I get angry when you're late in coming home. That is disrespectful.

Scenario 2: Your daughter has been sulking all day and won't talk about it.

• Come on now! Turn that frown upside down.

• You're ruining the weekend with your sour mood today.

• I'm bothered that you're so grumpy today. Your happiness is important. I wish you would talk about it.

• Seeing you sad like that makes us feel sad too. If you tell us, we might be able to help. We'd love to cheer you up.

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• I'm happy to hear you play the piano. Talent like yours needs constant practice. I'm here for you, anytime you need support.

• I'm proud to see how you raise my grandkids. It's not easy being a single parent. I'd love to help out. Just let me know.

• I feel hurt because I want the kids to be treated with respect. I would prefer that you not raise your voice or curse in their presence.”

• I feel annoyed when I'm reminded over and over to do my homework. I'm old enough to manage my time. I hope that's clear.