Relationship skills

Intensity is having or showing really strong feelings or opinions in a way that oversteps the other person’s comfort level.

• True

• False

What are two examples of intensity in relationships?

• Rushes the pace of a friendship or relationship.

• Doesn't make you feel like you need to check with them first before making plans

• Is happy that you are able to communicate your wants and needs.

• Comes on too strong (going from zero to 100 real quick!)

How can you make sure that you have independence in your friendship or relationship?

• Respect personal space and boundaries.

• Be your own person.

• Don’t rush into things.

• Be kind to others, but never at the expense of your own boundaries.

What should you do if someone is behaving intensely toward you?

• Set boundaries: Talk about what you're comfortable with.

• Ignore them

• Make rude comments to them.

What are put-downs?

• Compliments you and says nice things about you.

• Doesn't try to push or overstep your boundaries

• When someone calls you a name, belittles, embarrasses, bullies or makes you feel anything less than awesome

• Sticks up for you.

Respect is...

How can put-downs be harmful?

What are the ways that people show anger in relationships?

• Makes you feel like you have to "walk on eggshells” around them.

• Does things to scare or intimidate you, gets really mad, yells, punches things, or destroys stuff.

• You don’t feel judged for your words or opinions

• They don't make you feel silly or ashamed when you try to talk to them.

What is the difference between healthy disagreements and unhealthy arguments?

What are the four tips for keeping your cool?

• 1. Think before you speak

  2. Listen

  3. Once you're calm, express your feelings.

  4. Walk away

• 1. Take deep breaths

  2. Share your thoughts aggressively

  3. Once you're done sharing, leave without listening to the other person

• 1. Think before you speak

  2. Present your feelings disrespectfully

  3. Listen

  4. Walk away