Second Step 4th grade assessment

When you have empathy for people, you:

• Notice how they are feeling

• Listen with attention to what they are saying

• Tell them how they should feel

• Try to understand their point of view

Select the best example of being assertive when someone cuts in front of you in line:

• Hey, get out of the way!

• Oh...I don't know, but I think I was in front of you, maybe.

• Who do you think you are - king of the world?

• It's not okay to cut in front of me. The end of the line is back there.

There is a new boy in class. You've decided to start a conversation with him so you can get to know him better. What are some things you can do to keep the conversation going?

• Listen with attention when he is talking

• Face him when you are talking with him

• Use friendly, respectful, sincere words and tone of voice

• Ask more questions to keep the conversation going

Jill was very excited that her older sister was coming home for a visit. Then she found out that her sister had a change of plans and couldn't make it home. Jill is disappointed. What is a compassionate thing you could do for Jill?

• Ignore her and hope she will feel better soon

• Tell her you are sorry her sister isn't coming for a visit and invite her over to your house to watch a movie instead

• Look at her very sadly

• Wish that she felt better

You experience strong emotions only in your brain.

• True

• False

Select the first two things you should do to begin to calm down:

• Stop - use your signal

• Run

• Name your feeling

• Lie down

You are playing a game at recess. You notice that someone on the other team is cheating. You are so angry! What can you do to calm down?

• Call the kid a cheater, and make sure everyone hears you

• Belly breathe

• Count to 10

• Tell yourself: "Chill. Maybe he doesn't know the rules."

Anxiety is the uneasy feeling you get when you are worried about something that might or might not happen. When you feel anxious it is good to:

• Yell

• Clench your teeth

• Use self-talk to tell yourself that it will be okay

• Talk to a grown-up

Which one of the following is not one of the Second Step Problem-Solving Steps?

• D: Decide who is to blame

• T: Think of solutions

• P: Pick the best solution

• E: Explore consequences

It's recess, and you and your friend want to play tetherball. But Jessie and Alex are already playing there...again! They've played tetherball at recess for the last two days. You have a problem. How can you say the problem in a way that doesn't blame anyone?

• Jessie and Alex are hogging the tetherball, and they need to let us play now.

• It's our turn so we are going to play tetherball. We don't care what Jessie and Alex think.

• We all want to play tetherball at the same time, and there is just one tetherball.

• Jessie and Alex always get to do what they want - it's not fair.