Lesson 4 Pop Quiz

How would you define the word relationship? Choose the best definition.

• A connection or association between people or things

• A place where books are kept

• A kind of math problem that uses ratios

• The act of running fast

Which of the following are types of relationships a middle school student might have?

• Family members

• Friends

• Classmates or teammates

• Teachers or coaches

• People you do not know and never interact with

What things about a relationship make it a good or healthy relationship for you? Select all that apply.

• Respect

• Trust

• Good communication

• Kindness and support

• Insults or controlling behavior

Relationships aren’t always healthy. What are some qualities of unhealthy relationships? Select all that apply.

• Respect for boundaries

• Controlling or possessive behavior

• Constant put-downs or name-calling

• Dishonesty or lying

• Threats or intimidation

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all healthy qualities shown in Derik and Mason’s relationship. Case Study 1 — Derik and Mason: Derik and Mason have been good friends since third grade. Now, in middle school, they aren’t in any of the same classes. Derik has made some new friends, but Mason hasn’t. Derik still likes Mason and enjoys hanging out together, but he also likes his new friends. Mason sent Derik a text inviting him to come over after school to play video games. Derik texted back that he had to finish some homework. But Derik was really having his new friends over. Derik felt bad about lying to Mason. He understands that Mason has a harder time making new friends. So the next day he asked Mason to join him and his new friends after school to play basketball.

• Derik invites Mason to join him and his new friends to play basketball.

• Mason invites Derik to come over to play video games.

• Derik understands that Mason has a harder time making new friends.

• Derik lies to Mason about having homework.

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all unhealthy qualities shown in Derik and Mason’s relationship. Case Study 1 — Derik and Mason: Derik and Mason have been good friends since third grade. Now, in middle school, they aren’t in any of the same classes. Derik has made some new friends, but Mason hasn’t. Derik still likes Mason and enjoys hanging out together, but he also likes his new friends. Mason sent Derik a text inviting him to come over after school to play video games. Derik texted back that he had to finish some homework. But Derik was really having his new friends over. Derik felt bad about lying to Mason. He understands that Mason has a harder time making new friends. So the next day he asked Mason to join him and his new friends after school to play basketball.

• Derik lies to Mason about having homework to avoid him.

• Derik still enjoys hanging out with Mason.

• Derik initially excludes Mason to be with new friends.

• Mason invites Derik to play video games.

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all healthy qualities shown in Shelly and Maria’s relationship. Case Study 2 — Shelly and Maria: Shelly has always been very popular. Maria was glad when Shelly asked if she’d come over and help her with some homework. Since then, Shelly has asked Maria for help on a lot of homework assignments. Yesterday, Shelly asked Maria to do her homework for her. Maria really likes Shelly and is scared that if she doesn’t do Shelly’s homework, Shelly won’t be friends with her anymore. But Maria also doesn’t want to cheat. So Maria told Shelly she would be happy to help with homework, but she won’t do it for her. Shelly got mad and asked Maria to leave. But the next day at school, Shelly told Maria that she was wrong. Shelly said she was sorry and still wanted to be friends.

• Maria offers to help with homework but refuses to do it for Shelly.

• Shelly apologizes the next day and still wants to be friends.

• Shelly asks Maria to do her homework.

• Maria is scared Shelly won’t be friends if she says no.

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all unhealthy qualities shown in Shelly and Maria’s relationship. Case Study 2 — Shelly and Maria: Shelly has always been very popular. Maria was glad when Shelly asked if she’d come over and help her with some homework. Since then, Shelly has asked Maria for help on a lot of homework assignments. Yesterday, Shelly asked Maria to do her homework for her. Maria really likes Shelly and is scared that if she doesn’t do Shelly’s homework, Shelly won’t be friends with her anymore. But Maria also doesn’t want to cheat. So Maria told Shelly she would be happy to help with homework, but she won’t do it for her. Shelly got mad and asked Maria to leave. But the next day at school, Shelly told Maria that she was wrong. Shelly said she was sorry and still wanted to be friends.

• Shelly pressures Maria to do her homework for her.

• Shelly gets mad and asks Maria to leave when Maria refuses to cheat.

• Shelly implies the friendship might end if Maria doesn’t do the homework.

• Maria refuses to cheat or do Shelly’s homework.

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all healthy qualities shown in Jess and TJ’s relationship. Case Study 3 — Jess and TJ: Jess and TJ met on the track team. Jess admired how good TJ was at sports, and TJ enjoyed Jess’s sense of humor, so they became friends. But lately Jess isn’t having as much fun with TJ. TJ teases Jess all the time about not being as fast or strong as other members of the team.

• They became friends while participating on the track team.

• They appreciate each other’s strengths and sense of humor.

• TJ teases Jess about not being as fast or strong.

• They share an interest in sports.

Directions: Read the case study. Then select all unhealthy qualities shown in Jess and TJ’s relationship. Case Study 3 — Jess and TJ: Jess and TJ met on the track team. Jess admired how good TJ was at sports, and TJ enjoyed Jess’s sense of humor, so they became friends. But lately Jess isn’t having as much fun with TJ. TJ teases Jess all the time about not being as fast or strong as other members of the team.

• TJ teases Jess about not being as fast or strong.

• Jess isn’t having as much fun with TJ because of the teasing.

• They met on the track team.