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WorksheetsWANIC Health 5 Friendships
Total questions: 19
Worksheet time: 36mins
First step: Define the problem. Match the following pieces of how you define a problem.
Dad wants me home by 9 PM. I want to stay out later.
What do you think the problem is?
It makes me angry that he doesn't trust me.
How does it make you feel?
I hate fighting with Dad.
What don't you like about the situation?
I'd like to have more freedom, but also to get along with Dad.
What do you want out of the situation?
First step: Define the problem. Match the following pieces of how you define a problem.
I'm the dad and I want my daughter home by 9 PM. She's not old enough to stay out later.
What do you think the problem is?
I am so worried about her when she stays out late.
How does it make you feel?
I don't want to fight with her.
What don't you like about the situation?
I don't want my daughter to get hurt.
What do you want out of the situation?
Second step: See the other person's point of view. Match the following pieces of seeing the other point of view.
Dad thinks he's protecting me.
The other person's thoughts
Dad worries when I'm out late.
The other person's feelings
Dad wants to get along with me and keep me out of trouble.
The other person's goals
Second step: See the other person's point of view. Match the following pieces of seeing the other point of view.
My daughter thinks I don't trust her.
The other person's thoughts
My daughter is angry and embarrassed because she can't be with her friends enough.
The other person's feelings
My daughter wants me to trust her.
The other person's goals
Things to do when discussing something
listen closely
don't interrupt
say something that shows you understand (but not agree)
talk about and acknowledge their feelings
look for shared goals
focus on what you want to happen in the future
keep bringing up what happened in the past
interrupt constantly
raise your voice
tell them their feelings are foolish
Effective Communication
"I" messages
active listening
assertiveness
agressiveness
"You" messages
interrupting
using appropriate body language
planning what you are going to say while they are talking
getting in their personal space
Active listening How To:
Show your interest by (a) at the person.
Encourage the speaker to (b) speaking.
Avoid passing (c)
(d) the speaker's ideas. That shows you have been listening.
Match the following
hiding your true feelings
passive
Your communication seems threatening
aggressive
able to stand up for yourself
assertive
Put the behaviors in the proper categories
hoping the other person will guess your feelings
always listening; rarely talking
denying your own feelings; making excuses
using "you" messages to blame the other person
interrupting; being sarcastic
making fun of the other person's feelings
using "I" messages to explain your feelings
actively listening to the other person
trying to understand the other person's feelings
Put the behaviors in the proper categories
criticizing yourself; always apologizing
always giving in to the other person
mumbling, looking away, fidgeting nervously
criticizing the other person; never giving a compliment
always wanting your own way
yelling, refusing to talk, finger pointing, using force
expressing apprecitation; being respectful
seeking a compromise that does not go against either person's values
speaking confidently and clearly, showing interest
When you are cooperating, everybody on the team must meet their (a) , and (b) others to meet theirs.
When should you NOT compromise?
When a friend asks you to do something dangerous or that goes against your values
When you can live with the results
When you don't get paid enough
When nobody's watching you
Which of these do you value most in a friend?
Someone who offers to help when you have a problem
Someone who makes you laugh even when you are sad
Someone who expresses emotions without hurting others
Someone who is honest and reliable
Someone who is a good listener
Match the following traits of close friends
a close friend sticks by you in both good and bad times
loyalty
you can trust a close friend to be truthful
honesty
a close friend is caring and sensitive to your feelings
empathy
a close friend can always be counted on
reliability
Tips for Making Friends
-Be (a) ; don't put on an (b) .
-Join (c) that share your (d) or offer activities you (e)
-Treat everyone with respect
-Take a little time to talk with people you sort of know
-Ask questions that require more than just a yes or no answer
Tips for Making Friends
-Be yourself; don't put on an act .
-Join groups that share your values or offer activities you like
-Treat everyone with (a)
-Take a little (b) to (c) with people you sort of know
-Ask (d) that require more than just a yes or no answer
Match the following possible problems with friends
occurs when one person has something that the other person desires
Envy
can occur when a friend wants to develop more close friendships and the first friend feels left out
Jealousy
when a friend mistreats you
cruelty
members may need to conform to the expectations of friends (peer pressure)
cliques
Categorize these situations
a friend becomes jealous and envious when something good happens to you
you become jealous and envious when something good happes to someone else
everyone gets a ribbon for participating in a track race
"Whoever kills the most people wins the war"
"The all-you-can-eat buffet
spreading rumors about someone else
getting revenge on someone
being happy for someone when they make it into the college you wanted to go to
someone becomes obsessessed with another in a negative way
always insisting on getting your way without considering the feelings of others
Categorize these situations
"Whoever kills the most people wins the war"
trying to get ahead at the expense of another
pushing each other to become better at a sport
treating everyone with respect
Clownfish living in an anemone - clownfish gets a protected home; the anemone gets a defender
You go to a barber. He gets money, you get a fantastic look.
A football game where your High School beats your rivals 17-14
In order to avoid an argument, you let your friend talk you into a dinner you don't want
