GVB Meetings 10/27/2020

GVB Meetings: Agreement 2: 10/27/2020

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally

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How are you?

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What do you remember from last weeks meeting?

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own insecurity and their own ideas. When you are not vulnerable to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless anguish or torment.

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally

Nothing other people do is because of you – it is because of them. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that others know what we think and feel, which is usually impossible.

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during their upbringing – it is all their feelings, beliefs and opinions. Taking things personally makes you easy prey; it can become toxic to you. If you take in all their emotional garbage, it becomes your garbage.

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally

When you feel offended, your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You may make something big out of something little because you have the need to be right and make everyone else wrong.

As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others say about you, or what they do. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. When we are afraid (often about what others think), we often lash out. If you don’t take anything personally, you can live without fear, you can love yourself, you can be happy.

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List a few situations where you are aware that you took things personally.

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How are you affected by taking things personally? How can you process what people say or do in a way that might work better for you?

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How might the acceptance of this “agreement” (not taking anything personally) benefit our team?

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Can we agree to adopt this agreement? Do you have reservations? If so, what worries you about it?

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List a few specific situations where we would need to be vigilant about this agreement?