Calming-Down Strategies (pt 2)

Calming-Down Strategies (pt 2)

Learning Targets:

• I can use self-talk to manage emotions.
• I can identify calming-down strategies that work best for them.

Review

• Yesterday, we talked about 4 effective calming-down strategies:

• 1) Doing something active.

• 2) Doing something relaxing.

• 3) Thinking about something else.

• 4) Centered breathing.

• Today, we will learn about positive self-talk.

Opening

• Now let's talk about the last strategy:

• 5) Using positive self-talk.

Open Ended

What is positive self-talk?

Opening

• This is something that we covered last week, but are going to be touching on it again this week because it is something you use all the time whether you know it or not.

Multiple Choice

What do you think "self-talk" means?

• talking to yourself inside your head

• saying things to yourself out loud

• all of the above

Positive Self-Talk

• Positive self-talk is another way to manage our emotions.

• Pausing and using your signal is one way to use positive self-talk.

• Thinking twice and asking yourself questions or telling yourself things are other ways to use positive self-talk.

• you can also consciously use positive self-talk to calm down.

Positive Self-Talk

• Positive self-talk tells our brain that everything is okay.

• Athletes use positive self-talk frequently.

Multiple Choice

What kinds of things might atheletes say?

• Focus!

• Slow down!

• Keep your eye on the ball.

• all of the above

Open Ended

What might be some other examples of positive self-talk?

Positive Self-Talk

• Something positive I often say to myself is "You got this, you can do this because you are an awesome teacher!"

Open Ended

What might be some other examples of positive self-talk that you could use when you are angry?

Negative Self-Talk

• However, sometimes our self-talk actually increases our anger, frustration, or fear.

• This is called negative self-talk because it keeps us feeling upset or angry, or even makes us angrier.

Multiple Choice

Which of the following are examples of negative self-talk?

• "She makes me so furious."

• "I just can't handle this."

• "This is the end of the world!"

• all of the above

Open Ended

What might be some other examples of negative self-talk when you are angry?

Negative Self-Talk

• Negative self-talk like "He did that on purpose" is often based on assumptions about someone's intentions.

Open Ended

What could be the consequences of making assumptions that may not be true?

• Using positive self-talk and saying "Maybe she didn't mean to do that" can prevent you from doing something that you would regret or that could make things worse.

• Last week we talked about how we can't know exactly what people are thinking or why they are acting in a certain way.

• So it is important to consider lots of possibilities and not to assume you know what is true.

Open Ended

What does it mean to make an assumption?

• However, if someone actually did mean to harm you, you will more, more than ever, need to use self-talk to think twice and calm down.

• Positive self-talk can help you think clearly about what to do.

Being an Ally: Helping someone stay in control

• There may be times when you see someone who is struggling to stay in control, or is out of control.

• You are not involved in the situation, so you can think clearly, and you can be very helpful.

Open Ended

How could you be an ally to this person?

Multiple Select

How could you help so the person doesn't do something he/she might regret?

• Remind him/her to take a break

• Encourage the person to move away from the situation

• Remind the person what might happen if he/she does the first thing that comes to mind

• Distract the person.

• Distract the other people

Reflect

• "Reflect" is the last Step for Staying in Control.

• During this step you can ask yourself:

• What worked?

• What didn't work?

• What could I do next time?

Multiple Choice

Why do you think this step helps you with staying in control?

• you can learn what works for you

• you can improve your skills at staying in control

• you can plan ahead for next time

• all of the above