Conrady 6.4.23

Open Ended

Describe a time when someone blamed you for something that was NOT your fault. What did the other person think in that situation?

Multiple Choice

What is a "Blame Statement"?

• language that puts all the fault on outside factors like the environment

• language that puts all the fault on yourself

• language that puts all the fault on the other person

• language that puts all the fault on the same person every single time

Multiple Select

Select ALL examples of Blame Statements.

• It is partially fault too, I am sorry!

• You always hang out with Sarah and not me!

• I missed a couple of free throws, we did not just lose because you turned over the ball.

• It is all your fault that we lost the volleyball game last night!

Open Ended

How could you change this blame statement into a respectful statement?

“You never clean up when you’ve made a snack!”

Multiple Select

Why is it important to use respectful language, not blame language, when you’re trying to solve a conflict? Select ALL that apply.

Have an explanation for the answer you chose.

• • Respectful language can help you stay calm.

• • The other person is more likely to listen to you. 

• • You’re less likely to make the situation worse.

Multiple Choice

Rewrite this statement to make it respectful: 

1. “It’s all your fault our project isn’t done!”

• "Why can't you spend more time doing our project? Your friends are not that important!"

• "You could have done a lot more work on our project. I am never working with you again."

• “I'd appreciate it if you spent more time on the project rather than hanging out with your friends.”

Multiple Choice

Rewrite this statement to make it respectful: 

1. “You leave your stuff everywhere!” 

• "Hey, do you mind cleaning up some of your stuff today? That would be awesome!"

• "You are such a slob. I don't know how anyone could ever be so messy. Can you clean up a little bit?"

• “Why can't you be more organized? I don't understand what is wrong with you."

Open Ended

Look back at the situation you described in the Warm-Up.

• What language did the other person use that made what they said a blame statement?

• How could they have said it respectfully?