Self-Control

Read the statements. Choose the one that is something you should say out loud.

• We have to play the game my way.
• I won, you lost!  Ha, Ha.
• Hi, my name is Kyrell.
• Your haircut looks funny.

Read the statements. Choose the one that is something you should say out loud.

• Look at my expensive new phone!
• Do you want to sit with us?
• You're really bad at basketball.
• I don't care that you don't want to play checkers.

Read the statements. Choose the one that is something someone should think privately, and not say out loud.

• I like Chris better than you.
• I'm sorry you lost your gym shoes.
• Better luck next time.
• I like your coat.

Read the statements. Choose the one that is something someone should think privately, and not say out loud.

• I am having pizza for lunch.
• Do you want to hang out sometime?
• Shut up. You're dumb.
• We can play it your way this time.

 A negative thought is when someone thinks about how much they don't like someone or what they are doing. Others don't like it when we say this out loud. Why might others not like negative things said out loud?

• it may make them happy
• it may hurt their feelings or make them feel bad
• it's okay, I'm just joking

Keeping negative thoughts in my head and saying positive thoughts out loud is called "using a filter." Upon having a negative thought, I need to first think ...

• if my teacher will be able to hear me say it.
• of how loud I should say it.
• if I can get away with saying it out loud.
• if it will hurt someone's feelings if I say it out loud.

Scenario:  Penny is sitting next to Mike in history class. Mike has just had P.E. class. Penny thinks in her head, "Ewww, You stink! You need a shower."  Should Penny say this out loud?

• yes
• no

Scenario:  Penny is sitting next to Mike in history class. Mike has just had P.E. class. Penny thinks in her head, "Ewww, You stink! You need a shower."  What is something else Penny could say out loud instead of her thought? (remember saying positive thoughts out loud is called "using a filter." )

• You smell bad! (said really loud so the entire class can hear)
• This is a bit awkward, and I hope I don't offend you, but you have body odor. (said in private to Mike)
• When was the last time you took a shower? (said as you walk by Mike)
• Does your shower work at home? (said to Mike & his friend)

Scenario:  Chad is reading a book in the library. Callie is listening to music on her earphones at a really low volume while she is looking for a book.  She is not bothering anyone. Choose which response Chad should do that shows him "using his filter"?

• Hey, turn the volume down. Others are trying to read in here!
• Turn your music down. You are so rude.
• Chad should move to another part of the library.
• Complain loudly to the librarian.

Scenario:  Kevin has a new blue and green bookbag and he shows it to his friend Alex. Kevin's favorite colors are blue and green. Choose which response Alex could say aloud that shows him "using his filter"?

• Nice bookbag, I saw one like it in the garbage yesterday.
• Your new bookbag looks nice. I hope it lasts a long time.
• Blue and green are my least favorite colors.
• none of the above should be said aloud