Bolstering Boundaries

A rule or limit that someone makes for themselves that helps others to know how to act around them.

• A bubble

• An expectation

• A boundary

• An objective

After you have told someone what your boundary is, the next step is to tell them...

• your name.

• what your favorite food is.

• what will happen if they do not respect your boundary.

• that they can do what they want.

Marquisha tells Dante that she is not comfortable with hugs. This is an example of ____________________.

• A physical boundary

• A mental boundary

• A political boundary

• A material boundary

Jimmy tells his sister that he does not want her to borrow his book without his permission. This is _______________.

• an emotional boundary

• a mental boundary

• a physical boundary

• a material boundary

Katie really likes to wear green, but her friend, Regina, tells her that today is Pink Day and only weirdos wear green. To be assertive, Katie needs to set a good _______________________ with Regina.

• Physical boundary

• Mental Boundary

• Spiritual Boundary

• Material Boundary

Harry was adopted by his aunt and uncle. His Aunt and Uncle tell Harry that he is annoying and that he should be sad that he takes up so much of their time and money. Harry could try to make himself feel sad or he could set a good _____________________.

• emotional boundary

• physical boundary

• mental boundary

• material boundary

You are working on math homework. Your friend calls you and asks you to play, but you have not finished your work yet. How could you set a good boundary with your friend?

• Tell them you will come over and play right now.

• Tell them to stop bothering you.

• Tell them, "Thanks for asking, but I need to finish my work first."

• Lie to them and say that you are sick.

Abdi is playing basketball with his friends. One of his classmates, Halima, keeps trying to steal the basketball from him to play Monkey in the Middle. What could Abdi say to set a good boundary?

• "Stop stealing the ball!"

• "Why are you stealing our ball?"

• "I would really appreciate it if you would either join our game or go find another ball to play with."

• "Teacher! She's trying to steal my ball!"

Sione and Ofa are best friends. This week, Sione keeps calling Ofa, "The Oaf". Sione thinks it's funny, so Ofa laughs at Sione even though it hurts her feelings. Ofa should set a boundary with him because ______________.

• It's not good to call people names.

• Friendships are stronger when people are honest.

• No one likes nicknames.

• Sione is a bad friend.

If you want to grow and change, it's important not to always stay in your ______________.

• Pain Zone

• Learning Zone

• Ozone

• Comfort Zone