Understanding I-Messages

What is an I-Message?

• A statement expressing our feelings, thoughts, and perceptions.

• A message sent through an iPhone.

• A type of email.

• A social media post.

Answer explanation

An I-Message is a communication tool that helps express our feelings, thoughts, and perceptions without blaming others. It focuses on personal experiences rather than accusations, making it an effective way to communicate.

Which of the following is an example of an I-Message?

• "I am concerned that your assignment has not been handed in because I need to include it with my report and my deadline is next week."

• "You never hand in your assignments on time."

• "Why haven't you done your work?"

• "You are always late."

Answer explanation

The correct choice is an I-Message because it expresses a personal concern and explains the impact of the situation on the speaker, rather than blaming or accusing the other person.

What is the main benefit of using an I-Message?

• It helps communicate feelings clearly.

• It is faster to send.

• It is more entertaining.

• It is more formal.

Answer explanation

The main benefit of using an I-Message is that it helps communicate feelings clearly. This approach allows individuals to express their emotions and needs without blaming others, fostering better understanding and resolution.

In the example given, what is the speaker concerned about?

• The assignment not being handed in.

• The weather.

• A social event.

• A phone call.

Answer explanation

The speaker is primarily concerned about the assignment not being handed in, as indicated by their focus on this issue in the context provided. The other options do not reflect the main concern expressed.

When we use 'you' in a statement it often

• Assigns blame

• Assigns no blame.

Answer explanation

The speaker's deadline is stated as 'next week', indicating that they have until the end of that week to complete their task. This makes 'next week' the correct choice among the options provided.

What is the tone of an I-Message?

• Non-confrontational.

• Aggressive.

• Sarcastic.

• Indifferent.

Answer explanation

The tone of an I-Message is non-confrontational, as it focuses on expressing feelings and needs without blaming or attacking the other person, promoting open communication and understanding.

What is the first word typically used in an I-Message?

• I

• You

• We

• They

Answer explanation

The first word in an I-Message is "I". This structure emphasizes the speaker's feelings and ownership of their emotions, making communication more personal and effective.

Which of the following is NOT a part of an I-Message?

• Feeling

• Behavior

• Effect

• Solution

Answer explanation

An I-Message consists of three parts: Feeling, Behavior, and Effect. The 'Solution' is not included in this structure, making it the correct answer as it does not belong to the components of an I-Message.

How many parts does an I-Message have?

• Two

• Three

• Four

• Five

Answer explanation

An I-Message consists of three parts: the feeling or emotion, the behavior that triggered it, and the effect it has on the speaker. This structure helps communicate feelings without blaming others, making 'Three' the correct answer.

What is the first part of an I-Message?

• Effect

• Behavior

• Feeling

• Solution

Answer explanation

The first part of an I-Message is 'Feeling'. It expresses how a person feels about a specific behavior, which is essential for effective communication and conflict resolution.