1. Is this certainty or provisionalism:

Scenario: You are discussing countries around the world with someone else.

Response: You say “America is the best country on Earth hands down. There is no doubt.”

1. Is this strategy or spontaneity:

Scenario: Your friend needs help with a homework assignment.

Response: Your friend asks you “Would you help me with something if it was really important to me?” 

1. Is this control or problem orientation:

Scenario: A group of friends is deciding where to eat lunch

Response: One friend says “How about Chipotle?” and another friend says “I just had Chipotle but how about we do something similar?” and they keep going with a respectful conversation until all of the friends mutually agree. 

1. Is this neutrality or empathy:

Scenario: Your cat just died. 

Response: Your friend tells you “That’s the circle of life, bad things happen to everyone”

1. Is this superiority or equality:

Scenario:  Two friends are discussing what activity they should do.

Response: One friend says “How about we go shopping?” The other friend says “Yeah shopping could be really fun! After that we could get something to eat.”

1. Is this control or problem orientation:

Scenario: A group of friends is deciding where to eat lunch

Response: One friend says “I am choosing where we go because I always pick the best places to eat and I have the best taste in restaurants. 

1. Is this strategy or spontaneity:

Scenario: Your friend needs help with a homework assignment.

Response: Your friend asks you “Hey could you help me with my homework?”

1. Is this evaluation or description: 

Scenario: Your roommate has been skipping a lot of their classes.

Response: You tell them “I think you skip your classes way too often

1. Is this superiority or equality:

Scenario: Two friends are discussing what activity they should do.

Response: One friend tells the other “Let’s go shopping and I can pick out some clothes for you. My style is great”

1. Is this neutrality or empathy:

Scenario: Your cat just died. 

Response: Your friend tells you “I am so sorry, I can imagine you are feeling really sad right now. How can I help you?”

1. Is this certainty or provisionalism:

Scenario: You are discussing countries around the world with someone else.

Response: You say “I tend to think that America is one of the best but there are also other countries with a lot of great attributes that are worth mentioning.”