Setting Up a Hang-Out

Setting Up

a Hang-Out

Moving from classmates to friends.

Levels of Friendship

• Teachers often say, "Find a friend to talk to," but just because someone is in my class, doesn't mean they're my friend.

• Our relationships with people have levels. A classmate may be:

  • An acquaintance - We're in class together and I know their name, but we don't chat or do stuff together.

  • A school friend - We take breaks together, eat lunch together, or do trade-in together, but only at school.

  • A close friend - We chat and do things together inside of school and outside of school.

• I can take steps to turn a school friend into a close friend.

Multiple Choice

True or False: Everyone I take a class with is a "Friend."

• True

• False

Match

Match the level to the description.

• Acquaintance

• School Friend

• Close Friend

I know this person's name and we say "Hey" sometimes.

We hang out at breaks and lunch, but only at school.

We hang out at school, but also on the weekends.

• I know this person's name and we say "Hey" sometimes.

• We hang out at breaks and lunch, but only at school.

• We hang out at school, but also on the weekends.

Multiple Choice

If someone is a school friend, ___.

• We can only talk in school and never outside.

• We can become close friends if we both want to start hanging out outside of school.

• I can force them to be a close friend by ordering them to hang out with me.

Playdates vs. Hang-Outs

• The steps for making a friend change a lot as you move from elementary school to middle school.

• In elementary school, you had "Playdates." These were usually set up by parents and all you needed to do was show up.

• In middle school, you have "Hang-Outs." Hang-Outs are set up by students, not parents, which gives you more control but also more responsibility.

Open Ended

"Playdates are different from Hang-Outs because ____."

Steps to Setting up a Hang-Out

• Choose a person.

• Find a common interest.

• Exchange phone numbers.

• Set up a Hang-Out.

• Hang Out!

• Decide if you want to do it again.

Choosing a Friend

• Remember that friendships have levels.

• It would give someone weird thoughts if you try to jump from Acquaintance to Close Friend.

• Look for a School Friend - someone you already like to chat with on breaks or during lunch.

Multiple Choice

I want to start hanging out with someone on the weekend.

Who is the best choice to ask?

• The most popular girl in school.

  I just need to learn her name first.

• Peter, from Art class. He has a cool hat.

• Daryl, who I chat with every day during Laps.

• I have to wait for someone to ask me to hang out.

Find a Common Interest

• Look for something you both like to do or talk about.

  • A sport

  • A video game

  • A TV Show, Movie, or Youtube Channel

  • A craft

  • A board game

Open Ended

"Three things I might want to do with a friend are ___, ___, and ___."

Exchange Phone Numbers or Usernames

• Have a quick way to access your contact information.

• Remember, you cannot have your phone out at school. But you can:

  • Memorize your phone number.

  • Keep it written on a post-it in your pocket.

  • Send yourself an email with your phone number and username.

Multiple Choice

I want to exchange phone numbers with a school friend.

What's the easiest way?

• Try to find each other before we get on the van/bus and copy from our phone.

• Ask my parents to email their parents.

• Write down my phone number and username on a post-it, and hand it to them.

• Have them repeat their number over and over until I have it memorized.

Multiple Select

My family thinks I'm too young to have a phone. What now?

(Pick 2!)

• I cannot make any close friends until I'm old enough to have a phone.

• I can ask my family if I can give out one of their numbers instead.

• I should beg my family for a phone and throw a fit until they say, "Yes."

• I can give out my username for a video game we can chat on.

Set up the Hang-Out

• Choose a date and time in the future to have the hang-out.

• You probably need permission and a ride, so talk to your family first.

• After you make a plan with your family, you can call, text, or message your friend with your idea.

• Suggest a time, place, and activity.

• Your friend should then ask their family before saying Yes.

Open Ended

"I need to ask my family before I set up a hang-out because ___."

Multiple Choice

I asked Rohan if he wants to hang out sometime, and he said "Yes!"

When would be a good time to suggest?

• Right after school today

• Maybe this weekend?

  I will check with my family to make sure I'm free.

• One of these days. I like to be spontaneous.

Multiple Select

My parents said I can have a hang-out on Saturday at noon.

When I call my friend to suggest a hang-out, I should also suggest ___.

(Pick 2!)

• A place like my house or Starbucks

• A list of rules for how to be a good friend at a playdate.

• A gift my friend should bring me when we hang.

• An activity like watching a movie or building paper airplanes.

Be Flexible about the Activity

• Remember good consent. You want to find something both of you are enthusiastic about doing together.

• If you really want to go to Starbucks, and they really want to get ice cream:

  • Can you do Ice Cream this week and Starbucks next week?

  • Or go to a location that has coffee and ice cream?

  • Or hang out at the park instead of going out for a treat?

Multiple Choice

You ask, "Hey, do you want to play Roblox?" and

your friend says, "I'd rather play Twister instead."

What would be the best response?

• "Please, please, please, Let's play Roblox!"

• "Maybe we should forget this whole thing. If you don't like Roblox, we're probably not meant to be friends."

• "I've never played Twister. Let's try it! Then maybe after, I can pick the next game?"

Open Ended

"It's important to compromise on an activity because ___."

Evaluate How it Went

• After the Hang-Out, think about how it went.

• If it went great, awesome! Schedule another hang-out.

• If it didn't go so great, that's normal too.

• Sometimes, the first time is hard because you are both so nervous or excited.

• Or maybe you could fix things to make it go better next time:

  • Choose a different activity.

  • Invite an extra person.

  • Be more flexible with the plans.

• If the second time is still not great, maybe this person should just be a school friend, and you can find a different close friend.

Multiple Choice

You had the perfect hang-out all planned. You picked all the activities to make sure it was just right.

First, you would have popcorn for a snack.

Then, you would watch Harry Potter 3.

Finally, your friend would watch you win a race on Mario Kart.

Afterward, your friend said they were "So bored." What happened?

• Your friend must have been kidding. You planned the perfect hang-out!

• Your friend must have been in a bad mood. You'll try again next week, but with Harry Potter 4.

• You needed to be more flexible and find stuff you both wanted to do.

• You weren't meant to have friends. It's better to just be alone.

Open Ended

"One piece of advice for setting up a great hang-out is ___."