Social Health lesson 3- dating

Social Health Unit

Lesson 3- dating

Social Health
The ability to get along
with others around you

I can:

● Identify the qualities of a healthy dating relationships.

● Examine the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy
relationships.

Honesty
Respect Trust

FRIENDSHIPS

Honesty
Respect Trust

FAMILY

Open Ended

What qualities do you want in a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Honesty
Respect
Trust

DATING

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend listens to me and respects my opinion even when it is different than mine.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend explains how they are feeling when they are angry.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend supports my hobbies even though they are different.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend doesn't want me to see my other friends on the weekends so we can spend time together.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend gives me the silent treatment when they are mad at me.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend takes my phone to look through my messages.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend is aggressive and sometimes violent when they are angry.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend listens to me when I am upset.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend is honest with me even if it is not what I want to hear.

• healthy

• unhealthy

Multiple Choice

My boyfriend / girlfriend calls me names and makes fun of me but always says, "just joking".

• healthy

• unhealthy

RED FLAG

ADVICE

What is your advice to

this friend?

Your friend says: My boyfriend and I have just started dating. He is so nice and funny, and I really like spending time with him. I also have many friends who are boys. 

My boyfriend says it is okay if I talk to my friends at school, but I should not spend time with them after school or on the weekends. He said that I should spend my free time with him, because since we are in different classes, we do not see each other very much during the day.  He is worried that if I spend too much time with my friends who are boys, I will forget about him and start dating one of them.

Building Trust

Having confidence that each of you can spend time apart.

Your friend says: I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 months. Every week, I read her whatsapp conversations and log in to her instagram account to see who she is talking to and what she is saying. Yesterday, she changed her password to her instagram. She told me that she does not feel comfortable with me reading all of her conversations, and that I should trust her. 

I told her that I do trust her, and if she is not doing anything wrong, she should not care that I am reading her conversations. She got angry at me and ended the conversation. I still think that if she has nothing to hide, then it should be okay. I am worried she is keeping a secret.

Building Respect

Do not share passwords.
Allow the other person to have a private life.

Lillian and Kato really like each other. Kato loves to play soccer and has hopes of joining a league someday. He has just made the team after many hours of practice over the past few months. He excitedly calls Lillian to tell her about the first game that he will be playing in. Lillian is not so sure that she can go but still talks and listens throughout the entire conversation, showing Kato how excited she is for him. 

Lillian knows how much the team means to Kato, and wants to support him but Lillian tells him that she can’t come because she has a meeting that night.  Kato is disappointed, and wishes that Lillian would just forget about her meeting and come to the game anyway. But, he knows that the meeting is as important to Lillian as soccer is to him.  Kato tells Lillian that it would really mean a lot to him if she came to the game, and Lillian agrees to come to the second half, after her meeting is over. Kato is happy that she can come to the 2nd half and understand that Lillian also has an important commitment on that same day.

Building Honesty

Being vulnerable to share your feelings without any accusations.

Great job!

Next class we will talk about relationship skills.

Have a great day!